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Read the real story behind H4-Visa (H1B’s dependent)

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This is a real-story of a well educated Indian girl who married an Indian guy in US working on H1B visa and migrated to US on a H4-Visa. Here goes her story in her own words:

For those who’ve watched the award winning Tom Hanks’ movie The Terminal, life in the US on a H4 visa initially felt the same: arrested. Though America did not encage me to the airport, it did not give any wings to fly either.

From Wikipedia: An H-4 visa is a visa issued by the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) to immediate family members (spouse and children under 21 years of age) of the H-1B visa holders.

USCIS allows immediate family members of H visa holders (H-1A, H-1B, H-2A, H-2B, or H-3) to get H-4 visas to lawfully come and stay in the US. These visas are usually issued at the local US consulate office abroad. However, if the person is already in US, he or she can obtain H-4 visa by filing Form I-539 for change of status.

H-4 visa holders are not eligible to get a Social Security Number and cannot be employed, but can hold a driver’s license, open bank account(s) and get ITIN for IRS Tax purpose.

I was stripped of the very rights that defined my existence: a) right to work and earn my living, b) right to vote and make a difference to the life around me. With no social security number (the governmental definition of existence in America) I could not officially have a bank account, buy, sell or rent anything on my own name. My wings were officially clipped.

Yep what was supposed to be a honeymoon seemed pretty much like a nightmare initially.

But the first rule of survival as they say is adaptation. And that is where my life began.

Since I could not officially work, I took up voluntary work. I started with helping an immigration lawyer for some non-profit work. I met new people, networked. Not exactly the plan I had for my career but it was a start. At least I was learning the norms and rules of this new country. I now have enough experience and exposure here to go look out for a job in the globally competitive American market. And the contacts in the immigration law firm should now come in handy!!

Also within 4 months in the US I got my driver’s license (yep you can get a driver’s license on an H4). Getting my own car and being able to go from one place to another on my own was really like being born again. (Of course the insurance is in my husband’s name and I don’t at all mind him paying the bills).

In India I had everything: a caring family, an eclectic group of friends and rightful citizenship. But I lacked the ability to value what I had. And value for my homeland is the biggest gift America has given me.

Also I learned to cook, do my own laundry, and do the grocery. Funnily being able to do these inane chores on my own makes me feel more independent and in control of my life.

So when I do the math of what I have lost and what I have gained it pretty much balances out.

Update: I just saw a good article on H1B in TechCrunch.

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Discussion

62 comments for “Read the real story behind H4-Visa (H1B’s dependent)”

  • beautiful123

    I am also an H4 visa holder. If the rule is no working permit for H4 visaholder, then US must allow the dependents to have a special SSN for Health and Education purposes. Why Education purposes? I have a daughter who is going to college and she tried to apply for a scholarship from FAFSA. She was asked for an SS number for proper identification. She wasn't given a chance because she has no SS Number. Eventhough my husband is paying Federal taxes yearly, our children will have no chance for Federal scholarships. Can anyone tell me other option for my daughter? It's so sad. If USCIS doesn't allow us to have SSN for working purposes, then that is fine. But Please..please…. what if is not for working purposes? What about for the children? My daughter is very sad about this…. just because of not having an SS number her dream of going to university as a scholar someday crumbles.

  • suhasini ayyappa

    as much as i hate to put my comment here, i hope this will somehow reach to the person who actually is the author of the above story….why are you still here? complaints and complaints, that all you have then just pack your stuff and leave the country already…

  • Sonia Saraf

    Friends,

    We all are aware of the identity crisis that many girls experience after they get married and come to the United States of America on a dependent visa, famously or infamously known as H-4 visa, which not only imposes restrictions on working and having an independent source of income, but might also involve an agonizing wait to earn an authorized work permit that renders the official rights to work in America.The alarming number of stories about depression and loneliness experienced by H-4 wives inspired me to find a medium that'll allow me to share my secret of leading a life full of happiness and sheer bliss while being on a dependent visa. And I thought the best medium to deliver my message would be through a book.

    My book “H-4 Fortune Cookies” is dedicated to all the H-4 wives who believe that “life is a struggle” in a new country, especially when it involves leaving behind a well paying job, a stable career, or promising educational achievements in their respective home countries. It is for those who believe that they are not free despite living in a free country – “The Land of Opportunity”; that they have sacrificed and surrendered a significant part of themselves to their restrictive immigration statuses. It contains 50 Inspirational Thoughts written by me, who was fortunate enough to have enjoyed every moment being a H-4 wife!

    I want to share my good fortune with all the H-4 wives in the form of these 50 Fortune Cookies that stood by me during tough times. I sincerely hope that the thoughts in my book spark a ray of hope in the lives of all those wives who left their homelands to be in a progressive country, yet feel constrained due to their immigration statuses. I deeply desire to liberate all the H-4 wives from their mental inhibitions and inspire them to realize their dreams while being on a dependent visa. Share the good fortune by passing along these fortune cookies that are stocked with a lot of goodness and hope for all those who need a fresh perspective about “life on H-4″.

    My book is available in the form of an e-book and can be downloaded from the following link:

    https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?i=759677&c…

    Experience the joy in spreading hope & inspiration through the fortune cookies in my book!

    Lots of Happiness & Light
    Sonia

  • Carefortheweak

    People on H4 visa suffer a lot. They can not just work on h4 and have to get h1b to work. this restricts them from getting part time jobs that are necessary when you have childern. what if the spuse on h4 is not skill does it mean the spouse cannot earn. Everyone should have the right to support themselves and maintain independence.

    To my surprise i found that a person on h4 cant start a company or even work or it abroad too. Is this some kid of prison or punishment for coming to US to be with the spouse? I think the law makers need to bring some justice into this system and stop being mean and indifferent individuals they currently are to others sufferings.

  • lyca

    H4 laws here in US in not fair.. what was the reason why can't we work? Please make revamped on this kind of law. We didn't come here in US just to relax and stay at home. We also need income so that we can help our spouse for the expenses. With the high tax payment, our spouse income is not enough.

  • Sandy

    lolz! they r asking ppl to go abroad to work for them.
    they r sending work here.
    u can not disagree that they require indians for more than 3/4th of their jobs.. and indians are willing to work. however, they too need to be treated with respect. is that too much to ask for?

    being an indian you really need to respect your culture and background first for people from other countries to value you well.

  • Sonia Saraf

    My Book is now available for FREE and can be downloaded from the following link:

    http://sharesend.com/i4pvk

    Lots of Happiness & Light
    Sonia

  • Vinodha

    Hi Sonia, I downloaded your book and it was really fun to read! I got onto the H4 bandwagon recently and I totally agree that there is no better chance than this to have the time of your life! After all , we all dream of retirement while working!!

  • sheeba

    i came to us on h1b visa program trying to get a green card, after trying 6 years i gave my hope and become an h4 dependent in my husband visa. now i got a baby girl 4 year old become my world . now she started school i became so depressed and don’t know what to do.i got labor approved twice first i waited for 4 years to get my labor passed next time it is 1 year and i am still waiting nothing happening . i feel like in used and thrown away …if they can transfer everything form your brain they will do that . u will become useless. it is modern law slavery… i went to India after 6 years last year with my daughter.i just want to try how my baby can handle India. she is a us citizen and thats her first visit to India she is in an out of hospital for 100 days . and she got asthma their because of dust. then i gave up come back here with my husband .she is sick after she came here also.. it took her almost 2 months of antibiotics to recover from that , . that time she got a full seizures and i have to call 911 take her to hospital .. now i am worried what i will do if my husband doesn’t have work for next 10 years in the same company( every time we change the employer we have to start all over again & the process will take 10 years )..i have to take her back ti India… and leave her for her fate … i think none of the us citizens should treat this way…. i came legal here with a promise one day i can get my green card… and a citizenship… now what i get is i got imprisoned here in h4 and my baby will get treated as 3rd country citizen. because once she leave the country with us she will deny all her citizenship rights. educational rights and etc.

  • sheeba

    i fully support u rama

  • Kedikalya

    Absolutely agree:)) I am also Ukrainian and H4 visa holder. I am sick of all these “poor” H4 ladies. It is so pathetic just to discuss how bad is the life, US laws and etc. Just all this stupid posts feed someones imagination to sit and not do anything useful, to sit on the internet and complain. You came in here recently and you already want everything! What have you done to get a job, green card, citizenship. Your spouse came in here to work and You Girls! to get some status need to work your ass off!!!!

  • Ikabud

    H4 law needs to be revamped to avoid self pity on the part of the spouse and that he/she can help with bills and other finances. It’s not easy to live in the US. Both spouses should have a chance to work. H4 visa holders should at least be given social security numbers so they can start living. This law is so anti democracy and anti humanitarian. It destroys family relationship and lowers the dignity of the spouse who can’t work. I hope they will change the law on this on a more humane manner. How come the family of those with J1 visas can work?

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